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Guest Blog by Lisa Cherry – “Steering The Mothership: The Complexities of Mothering”

“Steering The Mothership: The Complexities of Mothering”

STM 3D“The central theme is how we all deal with the impact that our mothering has on us and how mothers deal with pregnancy, birth, bonding and attachment, when there may have been an absence of any such positive experiences from their own early years. Yet there are so many different stories here within that narrative that will touch readers’ lives. Themes such as domestic violence, teenage rebellion, disability, and illness are set out in uplifting tales of triumph over adversity, and raw tragedies of pain, abandonment and loss.  This gives incredible insight into the human condition without the detachment that can come from academic theory. Yet the book also avoids the risks of simplistic self help mantras and rather educates us through the real experiences of others, their pain and their recoveries.”
Malcolm Sinclair Managing Director, Mental Health Bristol

From a very early age, I understood that being a mother was complex. I lived in a house with my mother and her mother; a house that was filled with turmoil, emotional silence, unspoken truths and pain.  This triangle of three women housed guilt, shame and hurt and while I could not articulate it, I knew it was there.

As I unravelled my experiences of living in the triangle having been placed for adoption, alone for 5 weeks and then returned to my mother and grandmother, later living just with my mother and being thrown out of the flat we shared at the age of thirteen and then my own experiences of mothering, I felt compelled to explore this messy area. It is an area filled with taboo and societal pressure with prescriptive meaningless messages about what a mother is and what a mother isn’t.

Because of my own experiences personally and then my professional career in social work and education, I have never seen the process of mothering as the straight forward happy ever after experience that the magazines want to portray. To me, it’s a grey area, full of conflict and emotion and turbulence and an opportunity for on-going personal, emotional and spiritual growth. My own entrance into motherhood was propelled by a need to be the mother I had wanted for myself.

I had to come to terms with something important, something that I had felt angry about for many years, before I could write this book. Whatever happens between the child and the mother, the beginning of life comes from out of the womb.  In other words, the relationship that we have with the mother is one that can never be escaped whether that is full of abandonment, turmoil and/or love. Having spent years trying desperately to make sense of the relationship from the perspective of me as the child, I have only recently come to find a peace with it and a place that allows it to make sense. I’m relieved that my explorations for me as the mother of two children has been far simpler.

Steering The Mothership: The Complexities of Mothering gives us all an opportunity to explore mothering in a different way, through compassionate eyes giving a voice to the unspoken reality of a relationship that is far from straight forward. I hope in the pages of this book you find some of your own answers and some peace for yourself that enable you to make sense of your own narrative of your life.

Lisa Cherry 2014

Published on 30th March at £14.99


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Guest Post By Lisa Cherry – Quick Update on Free Download of Soul Journey

Quick update

Thank you for all your support regarding the FREE download….all of your information about your websites, charities and own books etc. was downloaded over 750 times across the UK, USA, Germany, France and Italy.How cool is that? Who knows what might happen now for any of us?
The next book is well on the way to being finished and I have also written a book on how to start writing….
This was a bit of a practice as I shall just market as an ebook that goes with the writing workshop. If you know anyone who might be interested then please do pass it on…
Have a wonderful Xmas xx


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Guest Post By Lisa Cherry 19 December 2012 – Soul Journey Free on Kindle for Two Days

Greetings lovely women of the world!

I just wanted to make sure that you knew that I had made 51SQx8Og29L._AA160_ available for 2 days as a free download for Kindle users as a Christmas pressie (and also for people that can’t afford to buy it).
The link is:
Please do share with your networks whether by email, FB, twitter etc (I know some of you have already and thank you) so the message is spread far.
I wish you all a beautiful Christmas and for being a part of my perfect year xxx
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